I spend a great deal of time on anti-tank roll. I found with the melta bomb run up to the tank and look UP then toss the nade, tends to hit higher up, not ground level and stick to the tank. Not always, kinda quirky but most of the time yes.
The melee thing is all factions. Atm lots of melee rules get ignored. I have my D bash do nothing on a regular basis.
See, maybe it's just me but I really don't see this happening too often with the Eldar. I think each race actually may even have unique bugs with melee which is wierd. The only one I can think of that I've seen is the strange interactions with rolling through a Dbasg. The timing for Dbash is just so terrible that it's pretty easy to just roll out of it. I know that's basically the counter, but you can full on roll INTO one as an Eldar and sometimes get away with it. Orks have their own wierdness, like their electrified choppa just straight ignoring clangs and murdering people without even pausing to hit their weapon.
I've never had that happen when I use a slugga boy. Other weird things I've noticed are the back hand strike on ork has a stutter step like the animation restartes when using some weapons. The torpedo axe actually takes half again as long to swing on every other hit. The SM RMB actually speeds up their animation causing it to shave off a part of a second resulting in RMB spam. The warlock can perform a power attack that will prevent other races power attacks like a fast attack does. I know I've seen other things.
I feel Ork RP-ing is so common because of how fun/funny and unique orks are portrayed in the 40k universe. comparatively they're the most upbeat and, in some ways, successful race in the entire WH40k universe. "in the grim darkness of the far future, there is only war" and the orks couldn't be happier about it! everyone else is miserable and just trying to survive, orks just wanna fight! as far as ork players actually listening to direction, you could say that it's all part of the RP as well. Orks instinctively listen to "da boss" who's the biggest and strongest among them. "Oomans are pink and soft, not tough and green like da Boyz. They'z all the same size too, so they'z always arguing about who's in charge!" - Ork Codex, 4th Ed.
In all honesty, part of the magical charm of Orks is that in this grim dystopian future, they're kinda just doing what they absolutely love the most. The other races are dour and depressing and all flavours of edgy, and meanwhile the orks are just going on these crazy adventures in space and enjoying every minute of them. They're basically a brutal army of somewhat slow 5 year olds playing pretend in a park. In a world like that, it's very hard not to just naturally join in the fun while you're playing. I'm an avid RPer myself, and I was pretty happy to see that people who are pretty obviously not role-players also join in the fun. It really is something else.
Honestly I never really thought about it as RP in the first place. Everyone's just kinda bein' Orky and you're there playing an Ork and suddenly you're typing in an accent with caps lock on.